I often go looking for parenting ideas that illustrate the difference between so-called “parenting” and mere child-rearing. They abound. My latest find came in the form of a 2018 article on fatherly.com by parent coach Dr. Stacy Haynes titled “I Never Say ‘No” to My Kids.” Haynes, described as offering “solutions for kid’s problems, rather than punitive punishment,” proposes that since when you have a disagreement with your boss, you sit down with him and rationally discuss the issues, you should do the same concerning a conflict with your child. The analogy does not work. A one and a one is n…