By Kayla Kibbe No one teaches us how to have sex — and I’m not just talking about the abysmal state of sex ed in America. Yes, an unfortunate majority of sex education programs aimed at adolescents focus almost exclusively on pregnancy and STI prevention, but even in the few and far between places where pleasure-inclusive sex ed does exist, the pleasure part is more or less theoretical. When it comes to the actual mechanics of sex — the choreography, if you will — no one actually tells us how to do it. As a result, most of us stumble into our first (several) sexual encounters blind, assuming w…